Marriage is something that most everyone looks forward to. Most often they imagine how their life will be with the big fancy house, picture perfect family, and everything is perfect. It is a legitimate "happily ever after". Then you focus on real life and realize that Marriage and love isn't anything like the movies. Sometimes it's boring, hard, time consuming, and so many other things, but it also can be a huge blessing, happiness, a huge learning experience, and whole bunch of fun when used and understood in the right context.
Marriage takes work, but not only does it take work in a marriage but even before. There are three keys to having a successful marriage.
1. Dating (courting)
This is such a vital part to creating a happy marriage. It gives you opportunities to see what kind of people you are attracted to and helps you have fun in a formal, respectful setting. Dating is essential to understanding if you can have a happy life with someone for eternity. It is sort of a "trial and error" period of your life where you can recognize characterisitcs and learn about things you would want for your "happily ever after". A word of caution though, dating is not the same thing as hanging out, and it will not bring the same enjoyment in a future marriage if all you did was hang out when you could have been dating.
2. You need to have an engagement. This is a time where you have decided that you can spend your life and eternity with a person. It is a time for immense growth and you are both working together and making large decisions. This step can bring you closer together as you work with each other, trade opinions, and spend time thinking of the other person. Also a word of advice. You're about to decide a future together, you don't need to spend ample amounts of money on a wedding when you could be using much of that money for a future life together.
3. The third step, marriage. Through these steps it can help you gain a better understanding of your spouse and help you to worry more about the other persons needs. You can learn a great deal from dating, and even becoming engaged. It will affectively help your life in marriage become ever more successful when you take the time to get to know and learn about your spouse in an appropriate way. It can help increase the relationship with you and your spouse so that when you do have hard times in marriage you can work together, and stay together.
Through these steps it may not always be a "happily ever after" but it can be better because you will be working, learning, and growing from one another.
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